Friday, July 27, 2012
Constantly Disagreeing
I have not had any conflicts with anyone outside my family, but I am in a constant battle with my son. He is about to turn 11 in Aug and he thinks that he is 25 already. We are constantly disagreeing and I have to get onto him about the same things everyday it seems like. I have had sit downs with him, his dad has, even our Pastor has talked with him. He is a great child, but he has this habit of wanting to talk back and be disobedient what we down south call "hard headed". I was raised "ole school" where talking back was just not allowed. I had a mother that would bop you in the mouth for talking back to her. I feel the same way and it upsets me when he is in that mode. So I am dealing with my son and we have conflicts constantly. I think that I have tried every conflict solution in this case, but too no avail.The one conflict resolution that I use is separation, I have to separate myself from him sometimes so that I do not allow myself to get so upset with him and do or say something that I will regret later. The only thing that I know to do is to give it to God because I can't fix it God will have to fix this for us. That is currently the only conflict in my life right now, we're in Spiritual Warfare right now.
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Melanie,
ReplyDeleteI hope you and your son will have the chance to share your thoughts and point of views to each other. Try to spend time with him alone and have a heart to heart talk, letting him know that you are there to listen and understand him.
Sometimes we have to stop or slow down and reflect on the things we did and what can we do to make things better. By humbling yourself and with your strong faith hopefully will lead you to have better relationship with your son. Do not give up on each other and start building bridges instead of walls.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us and hopefully you and your son will find a common ground in resolving your conflicts.
Hi Melanie...I can relate to your issue. In my case I was your son where beginning at age 16 my parents couldn't tell me anything. I was defiant and a know-it-all. Unfortunately I do not have a solution but will admit that it was just a phase. Perhaps you give your son too much lead-way which he takes advantage of and you may consider tightening the ropes. Or maybe you do not give him enough and he can't express that to you effectively so he is resentful and pushes the boundaries.
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